25 April 2008


I was thinking today about how sex is the hardest thing to research. You can research the build up but the actual act is an entirely different thing. I can be lying there, with my writing brain switched on trying to capture the feelings, the thoughts, the physical sensations but then I realise something -- it's BAD SEX.

I can't have my writer brain turned on during good sex; the two things are mutally exclusive. Good sex makes my brain go mushy. Afterwards I've been told I've done things or said things I can't even remember. That doesn't make for good research, but it's a lot of fun.

I don't know how other people do it.


  1. Yeah, good sex makes me pull faces and say stupid things. Things that can have both of us weak with laughter.

    So not what I want to be putting in an erotic story.

  2. Good point, Kathryn! Along similar lines, I find there's something elusive about the best real-life sexual experiences:

    "Dear Reader: Last night I had the best sex of my life. Unfortunately, it's all a blur ... so instead, here's some sex I just made up sitting here at my desk."


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